Behind every successful woman is…
This is something I have been giving a lot of thought to recently. What does it take to achieve the success you want.
When I started to think about it I realised that to answer this question I needed to look back at my life and think of all the things which have in the past stopped my success.
The list below contains some of the reasons why I was not always able to follow through on my goals and dreams. I have learned the lessons and wanted to share this with you to give you actionable tips on how to make life choices in a way that aligns with you.
How to ensure that never again, will you allow yourself or anyone else to get in the way of your success.
There is definitely a mixture of things from all aspects of life. Putting them into action and making the choices to implement them in your life will allow you to glide towards your goals and the things you dream of the most.
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BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL WOMAN IS …
Behind every successful woman is EXPERIENCE
Yasss, that’s right. Drawing from your own experience is one of the most underrated, yet most effective ways to succeed.
Everyone has been through something. Just as everyone has experienced the ups and downs of life.
These moments, although they might not have felt like it at the time, have all presented amazing opportunities to grow. There is so much to learn from everything you have experienced. Both the good and the bad.
Sometimes people allow these vital moments to slip by unnoticed. However, if you take a moment to reflect on them, you will be able to draw all the important lessons from your past experiences. The lesson that may be the vital ingredients to the success you are after right now.
So make the most of all the wisdom you have accumulated over the years and put it to good use.
Behind every successful woman is PASSION
Everyone always talks about passion – as if it is some magic ingredient. But often we overcomplicate it. I truly believe that simply put, passion is doing something that you feel strongly aligned to.
It is an emotion.
When you feel that pull and desire to do something, either because it brings you joy or leads you to a dream you have, or gives your life a purpose and meaning. Whatever it is that you do which gives you that sense of fulfillment – that’s passion.
Passion is an essential ingredient of success because it gives you the momentum to go after what you want. It’s one of the most important things which will allow you to push through the challenging times and not give up.
So what gets you excited when you wake up in the morning? What is the one thing in life you know you could work on for a whole day without getting tired or bored?
Considering what you don’t love is just as important? So what would you hate to be doing day-to-day?
What are your values?
All these questions will help you find that one thing…now you just have to believe you can make it happen.
Behind every successful woman is CONSISTENCY
Even once you find your PASSION, success will not just magically happen without some serious work. It will take time and a lot of patience.
The whole idea of OVERNIGHT SUCCESS is a myth because nothing worth having in life comes easy. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. The truth is, few people can stomach the grind that goes into achieving seemingly impossible dreams.
Too many people give up too early because they are afraid that they are wasting their time when they do not see results straight away. They cannot handle the uncertainty.
But consistency is the key!
If you listen to anyone who has achieved anything, they will often say they had the same doubts. They also felt uncertainty. But they pushed through and guess what…that success was just around the corner.
Behind every successful woman is CONFIDENCE
Confidence matters because it determines how you show up in life! When you have confidence in yourself you have a solid foundation underneath you which means that others’ opinions will not sway you.
With confidence, you know who you are, where you are, and where you are going and there is nothing that can change that.
When you lack confidence success can be difficult because, in essence, you don’t trust yourself, or your own decisions. You lack the self-esteem to pull through.
It means you look to others to make the decisions for you because you seek that external validation from the world, rather than find that validation within you.
Working towards confidence – and yes it is a journey – is one of the best things you can do to guarantee your future success.
A confident woman knows her place in the world and her value and she projects it into the world. And the world responds with opportunities. It does not mean she gets it perfect all the time, but she makes the conscious choice to work towards confidence. Because she realises the essence of confidence for success.
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Behind every successful woman is SELF-BELIEF
Whereas confidence is a lot more to do with how you project yourself into the world and how the world responds to it. Self-belief is the internal counterpart of confidence.
It is an essential part of confidence.
Self-belief is purely internal. It is how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself regardless of what you have achieved or how you look or how much you earn or your relationship status etc…
When you have self-belief, you trust your abilities to get things done. Whether you feel ready or not. Whether you have the skills or not right now. You know that you do have what it takes to learn, get better, and get the dream!
Behind every successful woman is SELF-RESPECT
Self-respect is important because it allows you to set the necessary boundaries to feel safe, aligned with your values, respected, and appreciated. When you have respect, you are treating yourself with LOVE!
It is also important because essentially it is a guide that you consciously or subconsciously project, which tells others how they should be treating you! When you project your worth into the world, it will project respect back. If you do not show yourself self-respect how can you expect the rest of the world to treat you any differently?
A woman that has a high level of self-respect will never place herself in situations that compromise her. She will never associate with people who treat her poorly.
As a result, she paves a clear path towards success because there is nothing and no one in the way to bring down her spirits, her self-love, or her worth.
Behind every successful woman is TRIBE OF OTHER WOMEN
Having a strong tribe by your side that is fully supportive of you and has your best interest in mind is a privilege. The women in your life will have a much greater impact on you than you may even be aware of – they will to a varying degree shape your values, your character, and your ambitions.
Remember the phrase:
You are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time with!
I have used it a lot in previous posts, but I think it is such an important message.
When we support one another we can achieve so much more like women. The man’s world we live in already puts up barriers for us women. We cannot afford to place further barriers on ourselves.
Make the conscious choice to surround yourself with a tribe that has your back always and as importantly be one of those strong supportive women for others.
Lead by example and have the back of the women in your life and I guarantee they will do the same with you.
Behind every successful woman is THE RIGHT PARTNER
Having a partner in your life should not be a stepping stone to success. You are whole as you are and you are able to give yourself everything you want!
However, having the WRONG person by your side can be your downfall.
Being in a relationship with the wrong person is a chore! It feels like an uphill battle. I know because I have been in a relationship like that in the past.
When something costs you so much of yourself when you are with someone who does not have your best interest at heart when you feel lonelier in a relationship than you did when you were single – it’s a RED FLAG. It is your cue to listen to that intuition and take action to make a change.
Staying in a relationship like that will cost you your peace and a ton of energy because you will be operating from a place of survival. The amount of energy it takes out of you is not worth it, because you will have less energy to give to yourself and your goals and people who truly matter.
With the right person, the relationship will be easy, and you will not feel like you have to compromise on who you are to make it work! It will just flow…
Make room for that person in your life. No one is worth keeping you away from your dreams and the right partner will never ask you to make that compromise.
Behind every successful woman is FAILURE
Success is great but failure is even better.
It may sound counterintuitive at first but hear me out.
Failure is not pleasant, there is no hiding that fact, and I will not try and sugarcoat it. It sucks, that sinking feeling in your heart is horrible.
Having to step back into the world with your head held high after a disappointment is not easy. But there is a shining light to failure if you change your mindset about how you see it!
Most of us fear failure because we have been conditioned to believe that failing defines our abilities. Failing is hardcore evidence that we are not capable beings.
Nothing is further from the truth.
Failure doesn’t define you or your abilities. It should not limit you or your life choices.
But how you respond to that failure DOES!
If you turn failure into a positive by seeing it as an amazing opportunity to learn from it, grow and be better prepared next time, then it can become your best friend.
It is no surprise that the MOST successful women in the world have faced the harsh realities of failure before they got to where they are. But they got to where they are because they opened themselves up to the lessons that failure can provide. They used this new wisdom as momentum to get better and do better.
If you need some inspiration read my blog post on the amazing women who have failed before they succeeded.
Behind every successful woman is A CALCULATED RISK
Unfortunately playing it safe is never going to get you the success you need. Sometimes it requires taking a gamble and having faith that it will all work out.
Going into something with a gnawing feeling of uncertainty is scary.
The thing about risks is that the stakes are high…but then so are the rewards which is why it is so worth a try.
Taking a risk is never danger-free but what you can do is turn the risk into CALCULATED RISKS.
By taking a calculated risk you are minimising the chance of it not working out and maximising the chance of it working out.
If you take the time to estimate what could go wrong, how you can prepare for any challenges and consider the possible outcomes/losses, and still consider it worthwhile, then GO FOR IT!
Success hides behind those calculated risks.
Behind every successful woman is A REBEL
When I say REBEL I do not mean a troublemaker or someone who does not like to follow instructions or someone who likes to cause disruption for the sake of being an inconvenience.
A woman who is a rebel is one who is not afraid to challenge the STATU QUO. Instead of clinging to what is safe and familiar, and falling back on routines and traditions, rebellious women challenge the norms! By doing so they lead to BIG CHANGES that can shape the world.
A rebel is not afraid to go against what is neutral or the expectations that society places on her.
Going against the current takes courage but at the same time stepping outside the norm often holds the greatest rewards.
Rebellious women are not afraid of the criticism of going through life following the path they want! Because of that, they have the most fun in life and an abundance of success.
Each one of us has a rebel inside her – don’t be afraid to channel her and you’ll start living a more vital, engaged, and fulfilling life.
Behind every successful woman is HERSELF
Be yourself, everyone else is already taken – Oscar Wilde
The ability to be authentically you in a world where everyone is trying to present themselves in the best life and give the perception that their lives are perfect is not always easy. But there is so much power in not being afraid of who you are.
Pretending to be someone you are not, just to be accepted and liked, is the EASY way out.
But you are hiding from yourself and your true potential. You are depriving the world of all the wonderful qualities you bring with you.
If you do not show up authentically you will not attract the right people or the right opportunities. You will not attract happiness.
You will feel the anxiousness that comes with having to keep up a façade – knowing that at any point you might slip up and be found out. It is exhausting.
A woman who is herself accepts her faults and also sees her virtues. She is not afraid of her imperfections. She embraces them. When she feels out of place or weird, all it means is that she is being herself. It simply means is that the situation, the people or the place is not meant for her.
She’s not scared to walk away from anything that does not serve because this allows her to maintain her true self.
ON A FINAL NOTE
This is by no means the full scope of what makes a woman successful but it is a good start.
Reading this might seem overwhelming but you also do not have to get all this perfectly to see success in your life. Everything is a journey so take things to step at a time, go at your own pace, and be patient with yourself.
Behind every successful woman is the faith that she is capable of becoming the ves=rsion of herself that will allow her to get the success she wants.
You have everything you need within you to make your dreams come true.
So go get them…
TO RECAP:
Behind every successful woman is EXPERIENCE
Behind every successful woman is PASSION
Behind every successful woman is CONSISTENCY
Behind every successful woman is CONFIDENCE
Behind every successful woman is SELF-BELIEF
Behind every successful woman is SELF-RESPECT
Behind every successful woman is TRIBE OF OTHER WOMEN
Behind every successful woman is THE RIGHT PARTNER
Behind every successful woman is FAILURE
Behind every successful woman is A CALCULATED RISK
Behind every successful woman is A REBEL
Behind every successful woman is HERSELF